‘You stole my spotlight’: SIL Asked to Leave Early at Baby Shower on Account of Being ‘Too Interesting’ And Ruining Host’s Event

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    r/AmltheAsshole • 9 hr. ag Visible_Yogurt7268 AITA for 'taking up all the attention' at my SIL's baby shower?
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    I (33F) am an OB/GYN and I've been travelling around different parts of the world on missions with MSF. Long story short, I hadn't been home in 15 months. (For some context, I decided to join due to a depressive episode after my ex-girlfriend broke up with me but I ended up loving it and I just kept going on missions for 15 months. My ex-girlfriend is a
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    good friend of my sister in law, Penny.) I decided to take some time off and come back for a while before deciding on what's next for me. I returned 2 weeks ago. My brother (I'll call him Harry - 34M) and his wife (Penny - 28F) are expecing their first child. They had scheduled a baby shower for yesterday, and obviously Penny invited me.
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    Family members and some of Harry's old friends and were asking me questions about different missions ans why I left for charity while I could earn a fortune here, was it hard being a woman in those areas etc. I gave them short answers but they asked more questions.
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    Penny subtly asked for me to talk one-on-one in the middle of the party. She told me I was monopolizing everyone's attention and taking up everyone's time and no one was paying attention to the purpose of this gathering due to my being there.
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    I apologized and asked her if she wanted me to leave. She said I had been enough of a distraction, and told me to please leave early. I left about half an hour after this talk. So far everything's good.
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    The next day Harry called me and told me I had been a rude guest the day before, because I had ruined their first child's baby shower. He said I should have kept quiet or at the very least left the party the moment Penny asked me to. Was I a. AH?
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    Pastsignificant365 9h ago Fellow medical professional, NTA. You responded to inquiries about your work and travels, and kept the responses nice and light.
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    To chastise you because they didn't expect anyone to discuss anything other than the "parents to be" is wrong. Others enjoying your company should not diminish their celebration. If they were bothered by your presence, it's something they need to address internally.
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    P.S. I did mission trips to Guatemala and Peru and had amazing experiences. Thank you for working with underserved communities!
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    VeronicaSawyer8 Professor Emeritass [94] 9h ago NTA. Boy this must have been a very boring baby shower if your mere presence and conversation about work was enough to distract the guests. It's not like you were juggling monkeys while standing on your head. You were answering questions.
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    TemptingPenguin369 8h ago ● Craptain [157] NTA. I mean, all you did was travel around the world providing much-needed medical care to those in need, and your SIL is the first person in history to have reproduced, so I can't believe people thought what you did was even worth discussing! /s
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    StAlvis 9h ago Galasstic Overlord [1604] NTA travelling around different parts of the world on missions with MSF Thank you for your work.
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    PyramidBox01 • 9h ago Partassipant [2] NTA. And tell Penny and Harry there are no freebies; that is, you will charge them by the hour for any OB/GYN questions they have, cash only please.
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    Ok_Conversation9750 9h ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [45] NTA. What were you to do? Ignore anyone talking to you?
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    SunshineShoulders87 8h ago Certified Proctologist [29] It's appalling to me that anyone would demand that their guest leave early because they were answering questions asked from other guests... and THEN to get upset that they didn't leave immediately.
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    Unless you'd gotten out the projector or photo album to show photos of your time away or kept changing the subject back to your trip and professional experience, you weren't doing anything wrong. How incredibly rude of them. ΝΤΑ
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    Additionally, I sure hope no other guest mentioned anything about their personal/professional lives while there. Heaven forbid someone forget about Penny for a second.
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    EffPop • 9h ago Aficionado [10] I can appreciate that the parents wanted their living representation of their ability to copulate effectively to be the centre of attention but... you're out there doing something and people are interested! Is this a version of the stories we read about self-centred brides
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    about self-centred brides and/or grooms but with crotch spawn? This is bonkers. NTA
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    tric82 • 9h ago Partassipant [3] NTA Would have been ruder to not answer people's questions. It's so weird to ask people to leave because they are too interesting.
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    aledethanlast 8h ago ● NTA. I'd point out to your brother that if you'd left the party the literal second Penny had told you to, the whole room would've asked what happened, at which point they would've either had to spin a story (believability and dignity of all parties may very) or tell the truth and look like self
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    the truth and look like self absorbed idiots who seem to think the Queen of Hearts was onto something.
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    Tucker_Max_69 • 9h ago NTA. Penny and Harry are destined to be helicopter parents that freak out when all attention isn't on their perfect child. They are probably already hanging a "participant" award on the nursery wall for his/her attendance at the shower. No way you could or should have handled that differently.
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    JennnnnP 8h ago Certified Proctologist [20] Oh for the love. NTA. It's not like you brought a slide show with you. You were socializing.
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    Honestly, considering how boring and awkward baby and bridal showers often are, they should be thanking you for providing some interesting conversation to the room.
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    FunBodybuilder4620 9h ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [30] NTA. You couldn't win no matter what you did.

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